I never had to make the first move, so this was new, but I didn’t mind.Jim ended up being kind of boring in person — perfectly polite, a gentleman, but, I just didn’t feel any chemistry. Despite some big differences between us, like our politics for one thing, and his dirty sense of humor, I instantly liked him.
Lots of my friends are divorced single parents, but not many have been single from the beginning, like me. I’m also really happy just being a mom, so naturally I’ve been hesitant to start dating again. Once she was born, I felt like I had found my total joy and purpose in life. What business did I have dating while my daughter was still so young? If you consider that I’ve been single since two days before I found out I was pregnant (when her dad and I broke up), however, I’ve been single for well over a year.
I knew that the dating pool was small where I live, but I was still surprised that so many guys were interested in dating a single mom. We chatted for a while but it was taking him forever to ask me out. He had a good job, too, but what really impressed me was that he was a very accomplished athlete.
Again, we chatted a long time until finally I asked him out. When I lived in New York, guys never hesitated to ask me out.
We went to a restaurant on the beach and strolled along the shore afterward holding hands. One of the first things somebody warned me about before I had my daughter was the potential to get mastitis or thrush and how you should always wash your hands before you touch your nipple.
When we were in his car, he just planted one on me and we made out. I knew right then and there that I wanted more, and I told him as much. Something I didn’t mention in my profile, however, is that I’m still breastfeeding. This isn’t a big deal for a new mom who’s washing her hands all the time anyway to protect her newborn, but my date, who would probably try to get a little handsy, would need to be informed and perhaps reminded. I’m not going to sit here and speculate about what other people do in bed, but for me, that would just be too weird.